ROB KOWALSKI

Best Selling Author of Why Waiting Works.

Podcast Host of Kowalski Analysis.

Social Innovator of CityFam, a global community of purpose driven thrivers.

At 19, I wanted to go to college and get out of the hood. So I became a “male entertainer”. I had already been sexually active, so I used that energy and experience to become the most sought after stripper in Baltimore. The money started pouring in. Girls were throwing themselves at me. I was living “my best life”.

At 25, I transitioned into the world of nightclub promotions and took over the nightlife in Charm City. I was naturally gifted at building communities and creating spaces for people to “have fun”. My life seemed like something out of a movie- sex, money, drugs, alcohol, and influence.

I will be honest. I loved my life.

Or at least I thought I did.

The truth was…

I was empty. Hopeless. And addicted to sex and substances.

I didn’t realize that I needed to change. I didn’t even know there was something else out there greater for me. I really didn’t give God a thought. It’s not something I even contemplated.

In March of 2000, God called me. Sounds crazy right? Imagine how I felt. I rarely ever thought about God up until that point, I was too busy having fun. But there He was letting me know He had a plan for my life and asking me to trust Him.

My life changed drastically. I committed myself to follow Jesus and making better decisions, like saving myself for marriage and cutting off all the friends I partied with.

But I found myself lonely. I couldn’t find a group of Christian friends that I identified with and that I thought were fun. So I became a homebody.

So after the better part of a decade of trying to be a good Christian boy, I got burnt out. I wanted to enjoy life with people I could relate to again, so I started going to the only places I really knew to socialize and find other people like me - the bars. I was 32 years old ready to have some fun, be around some girls, and have a social life again.

I was abstinent for SIX YEARS!!!!

So, I felt strong enough to handle the new freedom I began to give myself. Yeah, let that sink in for a moment, 6 years. To say I was determined to wait would be a gross understatement. But I was craving relationships and was ready to meet people and have some fun.

Going out on the weekends to the bars, it didn’t take long for me to start picking up all my old bad habits. For the most part, I became the exact same person that I had been prior, except now it was worse because I knew better.

I felt guilty. Shameful. And like a complete failure.

In 2011, I rededicated my life to God. I got plugged into a great church and began volunteering with them regularly and I started to like myself again.

The only problem was life got really boring. I couldn't find things to do or people to do them with, so I wound up staying in a lot by myself. AGAIN!

I was just trying to avoid trouble.

But, I knew from my previous experience that sheltering myself wasn’t a long-term strategy for success.

So, for selfish reasons mostly, I started putting fun things together to do on the weekend, pretty much anything to get myself out of the house that wouldn't cause me to screw up.

Because the volunteering I was doing through my church was feeding my soul, and because many of my new friends weren’t “religious” and didn’t attend church; I started looking for worthwhile causes for them to get involved with too.

When I found opportunities to serve, I would promote them, in the same way I promoted the social events. And people jumped right in.

They began to experience the same benefits that I was getting. In doing all this, I formed some really great friendships with different dynamics from the previous friendships I had in my clubbing days.

These were real, down to earth, imperfect, normal people that I could relate to.

We were hanging out together, having fun on the weekends, and serving the less fortunate as often as we could. The fun we were having, unlike the fun I had before, didn’t produce regrets in the morning.

We all supported each other and genuinely wanted each other to succeed. We were making positive changes in ourselves and in each other, and in time we started to believe that with enough of us we had the power to change the world.

That’s how the group I co-founded, CityFam, was born.

At CityFam we believe that in order for a person to reach their full potential they need a community that will inspire, encourage & support them them as they do the hard work on themselves to get there.

Now, I'm passionate about finding other people like myself and helping them navigate the road ahead to become their best selves. 

As for me, because I chose to be committed to being abstinent, God has blessed me in all areas of my life. I am now a #1 best selling author, a podcast host, and an international speaker and coach on sex, abstinence, and finding fulfillment.

Great Day Houston

Interview highlighting what CityFam is and why it is so needed.

Critical Bench Podcast

Virtual interview where Rob talks about his book and why sex before marriage isn't good for anyone.

Women Talk Live

This interview Rob shares his testimony and discusses dating, and how the church has fallen short when it comes to having conversations on issues related to sex.

Off Central Podcast

This interview details Rob's story of what his life was like before meeting Jesus and the challenges he faced after that lead him to starting CityFam.

The Super Human Life Podcast

Interview highlighting the need for community and a detailed account of Rob's strategy for church growth, The GO Method

Antena Stars in Romania

Live interview on Romania's nationally televised late night show, discussing Rob's story and the speaking tour he was doing over there at the time.